In our house allowance is not just doled out on a weekly basis. It’s both earned and functional. Earned through doing chores and functional because during the school year allowance comes on Monday morning and if you want to buy school lunch, see your allowance. Then came tonight, 13.0 announced she was meeting some friends for dinner at Friendly’s and I was funding it. Where I need a lesson in learning to hold the line? I reached into my wallet and gave her money.
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Before I over analyze this one moment, there are many areas I do hold the line that are far more important to me than a couple of bucks spent at Friendly’s. At the same time though, I gave both girls allowance plus extra money when they went to camp-which was for the summer. And they did not have to do any chores all summer long for that money.
The goal is not to be a hard ass about what amounts to less than $1500 per year between the girls. It’s really more about instilling a sense of value in the girls. I go to work everyday and earn money. They can do some work and earn some money too. Kind of the quid-pro-quo of life, right?
But, like most things, it’s just not black and white. There is the social part to it and the lessons that the girls need about being independent and being able to do things like go to dinner with their friends.
So, yeah. I’m still learning to hold the line, but at the same time I’m learning to manage the age gap between them and encourage other healthy behaviors (even when eating at Friendly’s). Never to old to learn a new lesson, right?