For 12.0 today is the second of her camp friend’s Bat Mitzvah’s – so we are at the beginning of her run of trips all around the tri-state area to celebrate with her friends. Add in a few from the temple, and she’ll be busy most weekends through June – not unlike what her sister went through two years ago. So it was big sister who stepped up and was sharing the trade secrets for makeup and hair.
For me its a lot of arranging car pools and a fair amount of driving. For 12.0 its a fair amount of dressing, working on hair and nails and make up. And she has the benefit of a great big sister who helps her out with all of that – and I have to admit I am pretty proud of the young ladies I live with.
From the moment your children are born, people always tell you it goes by quickly, and it truly does. I can remember the moment I had to confront being a single parent taking my then pre-teen older daughter bra shopping. It was a decision I made not to shirk the parental responsibility.
The other decision I made a long time ago, was to make sure 14.5 was never cast as a parent for her sister – but could if she wanted the role be a great big sister.
So, when 12.0 needed to get ready for her friend’s Bat Mitzvah, there was her sister helping with the hair and makeup. Would they both rather have their mother help them with this – I’m sure the answer is yes. But that’s not the way our family works – so we rely on each other, and there was big sister stepping in, and not just applying make up, but showing 12.0 some tips and tricks.
And I’m more than good with that. My kids know in our house we can rely on one another when it comes to sharing the trade secrets.