A lesson learned back in my teen-aged years about girls and their hair has generally served me well later in life. That lesson, just be complimentary, don’t be judgemental or critical. It’s not that I don’t have an opinion, or don’t want to share it. But girls and their hair share a unique relationship.
As an only parent to two girls generally speaking I have let my daughters keep their hair as they want. I call it picking my argument. It’s also probably a bit of survival.
For years, both girls have kept long hair. 17.5 was around mid-back and 15.5 was closer to her waist. At the end of the summer, 17.5 decided to cut it off. She had 10 inches of hair removed (and did some blonde highlighting). The removed follicles were donated to Locks of Love for use in wigs for children with cancer.
This weekend, it was 15.5’s turn. She had 14 inches of hair trimmed off and will be sending it to Locks of Love on Monday.
What struck me about her plan was she was very talkative about it. I don’t remember 17.5 saying much other than she wanted to highlight her hair. 15.5 was much more vocal, “Its my last day with long hair,” she said to me Friday morning.
Girls and their hair, it’s a unique relationship. I was (or at least hope I was) reassuring to her and supportive of her decision. We talked about how when she was younger and wanted no part of brushing her hair we had to give her a shorter “bob” cut.
When she was done and walked back to the car, I could see the immediate difference in the way her hair framed her face. As I was waiting for her, I thought back to the days when I took the girls for haircuts – and the discussions I had with the hair dressers.
“Do you want layers?” they’d ask me. “How about the front, just a trim?”
My response was always the same, “See what their hair looks like now, the same thing but shorter.”
Girls and their hair, not a great spot for a mostly dumb guy to start making drastic decisions.
Fast forward six or seven years, and my girls can easily articulate what they want for their hair (thankfully). And of course share it quickly to social media.
It was there I learned the other half of 15.5’s long hair story – she dedicated the cutting her hair to her mom who died of a brain tumor seven years ago this month. There are times I wonder if my girls remember the date, and other times I am astonished by their grown up actions and thoughts.
Girls and their hair. Be supportive. Be complimentary. Don’t be critical. And in this case be proud.