Over the years – as the girls have gotten older I’ve tried to enable them to make more decisions. Sometimes those decisions are minor (what’s for lunch) and sometimes they are bigger (picking out a dress for a party). As they’ve gotten older I’ve worked hard to support their decisions – even when I disagreed. In that I hope they’ve learned about respecting change.
When the girls were younger – in a lot of ways life was simpler. I would pick the meal, pick the clothes or the bed time. As they’ve gotten older and become young women – those decisions have been ceded and sometimes with some effort I’ve been respecting change.
Heading into Thanksgiving week is always a mixed bag for me. Thanksgiving is actually one of the holidays I like. But it runs head long into the week when Risa passed. From there we jump into the holidays, and then the long days of winter.
The change cycle though seems to keep moving. And rather than fighting it, I think I’ve realized respecting change is just as important as realizing it’s out there.
So, 14.0 has given up softball after more than eight years to focus on tennis. Her decision to make. I respect that.
So, 16.5 declares her independence with authority. Her prerogative as teen for sure – and I respect that.
Respecting change is probably a healthy approach – but certainly not an easy plan to carry out. Day-to-day, with my eyes wide open I try to learn something new from my girls and day-to-day they make decisions – and I try to respect them.