We’re about to reach a milestone of sorts in our house. 17.0 is about to hit the roads as a solo driver. I’ve purchased a second car, next step is driving for the older one. Much as I did when I got them mobile phones six years ago – she’ll have to sign a contract of responsibility.
Here’s what I have so far – wondering if anyone has any additional thoughts:
Agreement for Using My Father’s Second Car
The following outlines terms and conditions Teen Driver freely agrees to, understands and acknowledges for use of the second car belonging to my father, Car Owner. These terms as presented and agreed to should be seen as a contract between Leah and Ethan for use of the car. Penalties are outlined herein.
Section 1 – Basic Rules
The car belongs to my father, Car Owner, and my driving of it is a privilege I have earned. _____
The car will be kept generally clean and in good running order at all times. _______
The car will be parked either at the top of the driveway with Car Owner’s car having access to get off the drive way first or in a proper overnight parking spot. _______
No more than four additional passengers are permitted in the car. _______
There can be no additional drivers of the car without the express (and situationally) granted permission of Car Owner. _______
House curfew will be strictly enforced. Failure to keep to house curfew will result in forfeiture of use of the car for a period of time to be determined by Car Owner. _______
Teen Driver will follow and obey all traffic laws. _______
Any incident related to the car or its operation will be disclosed immediately. _______
Section 2 – Car Related Costs
Under terms of this agreement Teen Driver will pay monthly insurance costs of $ XX.XX _______
Teen Driver is solely responsible for keeping gas in the car. _______
Teen Driver is responsible for all maintenance costs of the car including but not limited to oil changes, tire rotation, tire replacement and general maintenance. _______
Teen Driver is responsible for any traffic fines relating to tickets or violations. _______
Should any fines or violations result in points on her license Teen Driver will pay any additional insurance costs on a monthly or annual basis. _______
Section 3 – Expected Driver Behavior
Teen Driver and all passengers will wear seat belts at all times when in the car. _______
Teen Driver will not use her cell phone at any time while driving. _______
A ticket for texting while driving will result in loss of driving privileges for a time period solely at the discretion of Car Owner. _______
Driving while intoxicated or under the influence will result in loss of driving privileges. _______
There’s not stopping the next step, driving. But at least she’ll know she has skin in the game.
Generally speaking, I am not one to pine for the good old days – way back when life was easier in the early to mid 1980’s (way back then). I like to think at least I am someone who embraces life today and cherishes the moment. But after taking 16.5 to register for driver’s ed, finally I can yearn for the good old days.
Perhaps because we were recently talking about it, or perhaps I just remember – but the fact that there was nothing momentous about my registering for driver’s ed. That’s a stark contrast to the 90 minutes we spent tonight getting the deed done.
Way back in the old days of 1984 (or maybe it was early 1985) I took a form a check and walked up to the office at the school where I took driver’s ed and I was done. Tonight, we walked into the high school up the road, and there was easily 75 kids (and assorted parents) on a line snaking through the front hallway and down an adjoining corridor.
There were two women in the school’s office taking checks and forms – and writing (as in pen to paper) names on lists. One of the parents commented that in 2016, there should be a better way…
Yeah I thought, they could do it like they did way back in 1984. It wasn’t an event. It really should not have been memorable. In contrast I suppose it will be.
So, finally I can yearn for the good old days. The days when putting pen to paper and handing in a check wasn’t an evening out – it was just another stop along the way.
If you work in, or have gone out in a city (or even some suburban areas) you probably know the concept of Uber – on demand rides. The concept is pretty simple, you download an app, load in your credit card information – and when you need a ride you click a few buttons and your ride shows up ready to go. We now live in the age of the Uber Parent though – and this could very well be my next app.
As an only parent, I don’t have a lock on this market certainly. Any parent or set of parents with one or more teen-aged child who doesn’t drive knows the feeling. Starting on Friday afternoon – there’s a text from a child and you’re in your car off to the races taking someone (or a small group) someplace.
The great thing about Uber is passengers get to rate the drivers and drivers get to rate the passengers – the higher your rating (both as a driver and passenger) the better the service. This video featuring an old friend from my CBS News days will help explain how it works:
I do threaten to rate my kids to prioritize their rides, and I really wish now and then they could coordinate a bit so it’s not the sense of just driving in circles. But in this über world of specified properties to extreme degrees – the Uber Parent app may soon be needed.