As we move through life we all gather experiences that help us from who we are, and in many cases can give us a level of expertise in diverse areas. While we may not be recognized world leaders in a subject, when you get into your social circles, if you think about it some, no doubt you will have an expert on cooking, an expert on baking, an expert on banking and very likely an expert on cancer.
I admit, expert may be a little strong-perhaps its expertise (at least experience).
But what is not over-stated is when you need help, advice or insight into something you will reach into your social fabric and find the person whose opinion you respect and who you think will give you guidance to get you through an event, point in life or a moment in time.
While I like to talk about technology, social media and mobile; the area of expertise I am more often asked about is being there to support a partner with cancer and how to pick up the pieces when cancer strikes.
In fact, if it were not for the last two items on my list above you would not be reading this blog. Still, it’s not quite expertise I feel blessed to have. I do feel blessed in some way to be able to positively share my experiences and who knows perhaps even help someone who is facing the decisions I was forced to face.
The reality though is that every situation is just slightly different. And every situation has different factors that weigh against it-making even real-time experience in my mind somewhat suspect. Still, I know it has a calming effect to know someone has walked the walk ahead of you.
Over the last month or so, I’ve offered some thoughts and insights to four different people who are setting out on the post cancer diagnosis path. One is a single woman, two are young families and one is a single guy. Half of the people are friends of friends the others are friends of mine. It does not make the advice any different, it perhaps changes slightly the way it’s delivered though.
But I still have this nagging feeling that maybe I should not be in that business because the factors are different, and there is no doubt the outcomes will be different in some way, shape or form. Still there are the contestants: the treatment’s effects on patient and supporters; a feeling of helplessness when you ask a doctor what you think is a black and white question and get shades of gray as an answer; the stark reality that no matter what the outcome is things will be changed.
While I’d love to be known as an expert in the areas I have a passion, perhaps my calling is to be the reluctant expert in living day-to-day and just making today better than yesterday-because tomorrow is too far away to worry about.