First, 11.5 became the first of the two to go to a Sweet 16 party. In this case it was the older sister of one of her best friend’s. So Friday night, off we went to a place so I could drop her at the event. She’ll be getting onto the bar/bat mitzvah circuit by the end of this year so not a bid deal – plus her sister did a great job prepping me for this over the last 18 months with bar and bat mitzvah’s all over the place.
In a right of passage passing within the right of passage, this was the first time (at least the first I can recall) where one daughter went into the closet of the other to pull clothing. They are getting a little closer in size, so hopefully this will work.
But we weren’t done with that. For 13.5 there is a semi-formal this June as she and her friends leave the friendly confines of middle school and head for high school. Admittedly, I am still a little fuzzy on the details of this (I appear to be the only parent in town lost on this one) she does need a dress.
Initially, I told her we could go grab dinner and do some dress shopping while 11.5 was at the sweet 16. As good as I have become at handling these things I get at 13+ dress shopping with dad is not a highlight of a weekend.
So, I agreed to take two additional 13-year-olds to the mall. So me and a trio of 13-year-olds. Clearly, shopping with dad would not have worked, so in the next right of passage the was crossed, off went the girls seeking out dresses, bras, body butter and whatever else they could find.
This is the first time I’ve turned either of my girls loose at the mall. A little protective yeah. But we do what we are comfortable with. Sure enough, 40 minutes into my nice restful sitting outside the Apple Store I got the text – she found the dress. So off to Charlotte Rouse where I dropped the card (after making her try the outfit on for me).
As the girls grow up – the right’s of passage get a little greater and a little bolder. This is where all my theory on teaching right and wrong comes into play. Time to find out if I did my part right – as the next right of passage awaits.