Well, we made it. With the holiday break upon us, and another year coming to a close we can all take a moment to sit back, reflect and project. 2013 was not so bad, and in looking ahead 2014 seems to have a lot of great possibilities – but first we need to navigate the holiday break upon us.
Now before doing what I do and rolling your eyes at another year-end romp through things that were and weren’t, keep reading. This is not that.
Often when people talk about the holiday season, there is a sense of renewal. The Hanukkah story is one of triumph. It’s the day Christ was born, and it all culminates with the ball dropping in Times Square and we all get a fresh start on a new year.
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For me (and I’ve never asked the girls about this), heading into the holiday break there is a different kind of renewal. Three years ago, when Risa passed, it was in the weeks between Thanksgiving and Christmas. That year, Hanukkah was just starting (I remember lighting three candles, I could be wrong) and I was preparing for a funeral. The blow-by-blow of that day is well chronicled so I won’t go into all of that.
Instead, I’ll focus on the moment of renewal. The way things went from December 3, 2010 to December 31, 2010 were a bit of a blur. The girls and I were home for the week of the funeral. The went back to school the following week and I tried to pull the rest of our lives back together. Then I went back to work for a week, and then the holiday break was upon us.
It was in that moment, kind of as a last-minute decision I set a course of renewal. We went skiing.
I had done a lot of skiing before we moved to Boston and we had our first child. After that I had gone 10 years without skiing. The girls and I talked about skiing in the winter of 2009, but we just could not pull it off. So, off we went.
Looking back at that moment I see it as the time we all began to realize we would be alright, there would be a life ahead of us. We now had something we can share, a new experience and one that allowed us at that time to come together and enjoy memories-without having to relive the painful ones that were on the surface at that moment.
Last winter-with issues with both of my knees and a mild winter we were not able to ski. But this year, the holiday break is upon us, and we will be off to build on our shared memories, enjoy our time together and remember that we can still have fun-and that’s not so bad.
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