Lessons Learned From a New Hip

Closing in on two weeks since I had total hip replacement surgery – and before anyone asks doing really well.  There are some lessons learned from a new hip installed that are worth noting (if not sharing).

  1. “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”  This is what most people who I know who had the surgery said to me going into it.  And generally I agree – I can say there was one minor complication in the hospital, but I woke up in the recovery room and for the first time in two years, my hip wasn’t bothering me.  I think for me, the timing was right – but I can understand why people ask themselves why they didn’t do it sooner.
  2. It’s really major surgery:  My only frame of reference for surgery was my ACL surgery almost six years ago and the less invasive MCL surgery I had six months after that (opposite knee).  Don’t let anyone mislead you – hip replacement may happen a lot, but its major surgery.
  3. Not sure the pre-surgery prep was on point: The doctor and hospital did a great job explaining the procedure, the expected outcome and even the path to rehab.  What they glossed over though was the actual surgical site and the reality of where they cut (right into your glute muscle) and the impact of that.  The only pain I dealt with was from the surgical site.
  4. I finally understand the opioid crisis in this country: I try not to take meds as a rule.  And certainly won’t take any high-end pain killers unless absolutely needed.  They start pushing narcotic pain killers before surgery. I managed to get through the surgery and post-op care without taking any narcotic pain killers.  Not everyone can do that.  I used Tylenol and ice to deal with pain and discomfort.  There was one night in the hospital the nurse spent 20 minutes trying to talk me into taking morphine – because they were going to start physical therapy (PT) the next day.  My thought process was: I just had major surgery, there should be some discomfort.  How am I going to differentiate pain if I am muting it all?  It’s a problem.
  5. I have great kids and support:  It’s not easy for me to ask for or accept help.  I want to be responsible for my stuff.  There are people who really helped out and got me through those first 5 or 6 days and I am really happy about that – and that I was willing to take the help.

There are probably more lessons from the new hip – but if I can go through this experience and come away pain-free and learn something – I’m ahead of the game.

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Work Travel and the Single Dad

Tbusiness-traveloday is one of those Sunday’s.  I could be home with the girls, picking 11.0 up from her camp reunion or helping 13.5 cook dinner.  Instead I’m at JFK, getting ready to get on a plane for a week in Los Angeles.  This is where work, travel and the single dad come together.


Generally, a week in LA during the winter in NYC is not a bad thing.  And cards on the table I’ve done this before.  This is the first time though I’m out a full week since Risa passed, and I have to admit this one bothers me a little more.

I know the girls will be fine.  I know the house will be fine.  I have great systems and friends and networks in place in case something comes up.

But still, I’m not there.

There are tests, events, moments and unlike others who travel for work there is a parent there to share them with.  I guarantee this bothers me more than it does the girls but still its that point in time where I have to manage the demands of work, what goes on at home and all while I travel.

Normally, my business travel is a day sometimes two.  This time though it’s the full week, and that is kind of what is weighing on me most.

But it’s important for me to keep my job.  I need to support the house.  The girls need clothes and food.  The car needs gas and lets face it, we all like to do things.  Doing things means making the occasional sacrifice.

So, onto a plane I step, and off I go.  It’s a moment of work, travel and the single dad.  Or just call it life.

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