It’s something I’ve known for a while but probably didn’t want to admit to myself until I was forced to – and somewhere during the high school art show this week – that moment came: my kids are truly independent people.
As a parent you watch with some amazement as your children develop personality. I’m pretty sure the first time we noted that was in a restaurant setting where our kids expressed choices on what they wanted. You could see it at that moment. Independent people emerging.
This week at the high school 14.5 had a dozen or so art projects on display – and its while I was walking around with her showing me the projects and listening to her describe the assignments – I realized her independent person had fully emerged.
I think the timing was about the same when I realized my older one was an independent person too – but I am pretty sure I never admitted it to myself.
What I mean though is not that I am no longer needed (although that day is coming). What I see from the girls is they can make their own choices. They know what they like, and then can express it.
16.5 is an exceptional writer and story-teller. She can express her thoughts and feelings with symbols and directly.
14.5’s voice clearly emerges through her art work You can see her expressing herself and her feelings.
Both of my girls are independent people (and they still order what they want when we’re out to eat).
As a parent I have to be amazed and in awe that I can see this. I think it’s what parents want when they start out – and to see it manifest is rewarding. Independent people emerged in my house and in their lives. My hope as a parent is they can nurture their ability to share their expressions and thrive at it throughout their lives.
One day, perhaps they’ll have the honor of watching independent people emerge within their children too….